Get In The Mood Fast
Take a shortcut
After a long and boring day, anything that helps get you both turned on should become part of your arsenal.
For men and some women, soft porn or magazines often do the trick. Talk to your other half so she doesn’t feel inadequate if you resort to porn—and get her to try it herself. Even better, make your own soft-porn… she might love to see a video of herself! I recommend promising beforehand that the material stays 100% private for ever.
For many women, romance novels are equally likely to promote passion. By providing vicarious thrills, they can help generate natural lubrication too. If she hasnt read it yet, buy her 50 Shades of Grey, Voluptuous Vixen or Seduce Me at Sunrise. Then ask her to re-read to you her favourite bits.
Just be adventurous
Just do it
A change of venue accomplishes two goals. It adds novelty, and it gets you away from the normal surroundings, which rarely is sexually enticing. Get a hotel for a quickie at noon!
Create some time out just for each other. If you had kids recently this might feel difficult, but it does wonders for a relationship. Couples blame each other for placing too much emphasis on children or careers at the expense of the relationship. Have a glass of wine and talk. When people feel understood, they often feel a greater sense of love or passion. If you can’t solve all your problems, at least come to enough of a truce to give each other pleasure. Problem solving may get easier after that. It is a virtuous cycle. Take more time just for each other and you will remember why you actually got together in the first place.
Just touch each other
According to psycho-sexual therapists, there are four stages of sex: desire, arousal, orgasm, and return to normal. “But for a lot of people, stages one and two—desire and arousal—can happen in reverse order,” says Weiner-Davis. Get your partner to let you touch her sexually, whether you’re in the mood or not. Nerves that are wired to parts of the brain involved in sexual excitement will be stimulated, and physical arousal will likely follow.
Work out together
Working out together does several things. You spend quality time together, you get hot and sweaty (and eventually toned and muscly) outside of the bedroom and you release lots of endorphines.
Especially men benefit from compound exercises like regular pushups and pullups, which you can do at home. Even better, work out your legs regularly by doing squats and deadlifts in the gym. This will stimulate your testosterone production, increase your libido and ability to have a solid erection.
Ideally, work out at home together. Do some High Intensity circuits and then repeat in the bedroom! 🙂